If your home is juggling teens, stepparent dynamics, and even caring for aging parents, this conversation gives you a clear, rules-based plan you can use across all of it.
Dr. Aliza Pressman is a developmental psychologist, co-founder of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center, and author of The 5 Principles of Parenting. She lays out what works in blended homes, co-parenting, and hormonal seasons so your house runs on calm and consistency, not crisis. You’ll learn how to align expectations across two homes, set stepparent boundaries that build trust, and protect everyone’s nervous system when hormones run high.
They talk about:
- How to balance kids, stepparent dynamics, and elder care without burning out
- Stepparent boundaries and practical language that build trust
- Ways to keep rules and consequences consistent across two homes
- How to use repair before discipline and what that looks like in practice
- Phone and sleep limits that reduce reactivity and improve moods
- A 5-minute reset to use before tough conversations
- How to split the mental load so it actually feels fair
- How to spot your triggers and stay regulated when hormones run high
This isn’t about perfect parenting. It’s about a steady plan you can use tonight to make a blended, hormonal household feel sane again.
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Dr. Aliza Pressman
Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, lays out what works in blended homes, co-parenting, and hormonal seasons so your house runs on calm and consistency, not crisis.
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0:00 Intro
03:05 The Science of Resilience and Why It’s Not Just “Grit”
05:28 The Five Principles of Parenting (and Relationships)
10:28 Why Repair Makes Relationships Stronger Than Perfection
15:32 Self-Compassion, Grace, and the “Good Enough” Parent
20:49 Surviving a Hormonal Household: Teens + Menopause
27:24 Parenting in the Age of Social Media and AI
30:18 Stretching vs. Breaking: Knowing When to Step In
31:45 The Sandwich Generation: Caring for Kids and Aging Parents
36:52 Why Intergenerational Bonds Are So Powerful
39:20 Step Parenting Without Resentment or Power Struggles
43:07 Real-Life Q&A: College Doubts, Disappearing Teens, and Blended Families
52:10 Why “B-Minus Parenting” Might Be the Healthiest Choice
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